The request troubles you. Everyone else is nodding. It would be so much easier if agreement made a thing right. The midwives in Exodus face a command they can't obey faithfully.
Exodus 1 names Shiphrah and Puah, midwives who refuse Pharaoh's order to kill Hebrew boys. Their fear of God governs a costly choice to protect life. The powerful ruler doesn't get final authority over their obedience.
Your circumstances differ, but conscience can still bring a difficult decision. Get the facts. Seek appropriate counsel and support. Refuse clear harm or dishonesty. Courage is easier to romanticize than practice, so plan for possible consequences. You don't have to stand alone simply because your answer needs to be firm.
A question to sit with
Where am I confusing widespread agreement with moral permission?
You can take this slowly.